When we grow older, our focus turns to our soul mate. During courtship, the other person becomes our whole world, there is nothing that can stop us from getting the person we want. We will stop at nothing to win the person. When things don't turn up the way we wanted, we are heart broken. Some of us may even do stupid things like committing suicide. Why? It is the only person in the world and without it our life is empty.
At work, our minds are so intense on getting to the top. We will eliminate any competitors by any means. For money, we will do anything just to get it. Some of us ends up as addicts in gambling, drinking, sex. It has been our focus and there is nothing else that matters. We don't mind our family gets broken. We don't care whether our family suffers. We only want the thing we desire.
Our religion is sacred. We do anything to defend it. We would die for our god. There is none but the all mighty. Anyone who goes against it or seemingly go against it is our enemy. We will do anything to defend our god.
We get very upset when encountering with one person who says or do something to hurt us. It is due to the fact that we focus too much on what the person says or do and ignores the fact that it is only that person who says that. If you find that many others says the same thing then there is a real reason that what was said is true. If it is not the case then why get upset by just ONE person?
What happened to us? Nothing actually. We are just being taught from young to focus on the thing we want and to get or hold on to it for dear life.
Is there anything wrong about being focused? There are many people who just cannot focus and lived a life of poverty. There are just many others who just followers and need to be told what to do.
Actually, there is nothing wrong about being focused. Many great scientists produced great result because they are focused. Many great things are achieved because people are focused. Many great story were told because there are people who focused.
Then, you may ask why all the negetive views mentioned earlier? Actually, the fundamental issue with being focus is that you tends to ignore the environment around you. You tends to be selfish and wanted to eliminate all opposition to your focus. The result is that many people do harm to others while being focused. You may even harm yourself by doing so.
It is allright to be focused. However, in doing so, we need to know one thing. Does our focus affect others including yourself? Does our focus harm the environment? How many of you will think this way?
Some religious people will die for their religion. In the course of doing so, they inevitably targetted innocent people. Is that the right thing to do?
On the less sever side, some people steps over others, back stabbing, slandering and every ugliy act just to climb to the top. In the process, many people were harmed by the act. It is true that many others did the same. But is that the only way to climb?
On the emotional side, you loved some one. If the relationship does not ends up the way you wanted, does that means that the world ends with it. Would you do stupid things just because of that one person?
We need to learn to focus on things the right way. It is allright to focus. It is not allright to take the focus as the only thing in the world and that there is nothing else beside it. It is not proper to harm others in the process of focusing. It is not alright to harm even yourself if you lost your focus.
What ever focus you are concentrating on is just a spot in your life. It is not your entire life. There are just too many focus in your life that you need to have. Gaining or loosing one focus is not the end of life. It is just the beginning of anohter focus. Animals know when to give up even when it means starvation or losting their family members. The primary aim is to preserve self. Why should you, being the most intelligent animal, think otherwise.
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